Divorce for everyone is a long and painful process. Divorce does not only affect one aspect of your life, it affects all of them. In some situations, there is apparently no option other than divorce but religious or moral beliefs may prevent abused or maltreated spouses from seeking legal counsel. This is especially true for the Memphis lawyer who serves a fairly conservative community. The legal alternatives to Divorce come mainly from the period before the easy availability of modern divorce. They maintain basic duties of support and the status of man and wife but relieve the spouses of the duty to live together and serve to separate property interests. In Tennessee, remember, in case of a divorce, all property acquired up to the time a divorce is filed is usually considered marital property.

The first option for those trying to avoid divorce is marriage counseling. While not a legal option, it should be your first step if nothing else to ensure a clean conscience. You may have considered this before, but simply concluded it would not make a difference. Marriage counseling is effective because it makes all the underlying issues of your marriage come to the forefront. For counseling to work, you must evaluate your marriage for improvement. You cannot realistically expect for a one time 30 minute counseling session to save your marriage. Instead, it will take time, hard work, and dedication from each spouse to commit to changing their lives for your marriage. Marriage counseling can come from your pastor, family, friends, therapist, or other counseling service dedicated to saving marriages.

The second option is annulment. Traditionally, certain acts such as co-habitation, setting up households, or being able to bear children were requirements before a marriage ceremony created a valid marriage. So if you’ve realized you made a bad decision, but are unable to seek a divorce for a religious or moral reason, then immediately seek legal advice. A divorce may not be necessary.

A third option is separation or divorce from bed and board. The legal duties of fidelity remain. A legal separation for two years without minor children gives the other party grounds for divorce and a court may sua sponte order the parties divorce, but if you cannot ask for a divorce, then this may be the only option available to you. The legal issues of child custody, support, and property can all be dealt with accordingly. A separation order can be temporary or permanent.

A fourth option is an order of protection. Unfortunately, in Memphis these are granted in the inferior general sessions criminal court unless a divorce or perhaps a legal separation is concurrently sought. This means support and custody issues frequently are not dealt with at this stage. This is an effective way to keep an abusive spouse away from the home without seeking a formal divorce.

The important thing is to contact a Memphis lawyer or a lawyer in the appropriate area who usually works with family law issues. Most lawyers aren’t just divorce lawyers but work with custody, adoption, and other family law issues. A good family lawyer will always be willing to discuss alternatives keeping your religious and moral preferences in mind.

David Sandy
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Divorce is the termination of marriage and this can happen due to many reasons. It is one of the most harrowing experiences that a person can face in his or her life. This situation arises when there occurs some problems in the lives of the husband and wife and they are not able to cope with it. To take care of all the legal aspects a divorce lawyer who has the experience and the expertise is required. Lawyers expertise in various areas and people who are seeking divorce from their spouses must find a good divorce lawyer to handle all the legal; aspect of it.

A divorce lawyer NYC represents his client’s case in the court of law and puts all his effort and talent in winning the case. Being located in New York city, one can get assistance of any experienced lawyers who can present the case in the court. Divorce lawyer NYC struggles hard to give the case maximum attention and explores all the options that can help in winning the case. The lawyers will be very much loyal and faithful towards their client’s case. He will consider each and every point in the case to get the divorce certificate for his client.

In a divorce case, there are various factors that have to be taken into consideration by the lawyer, like child custody, asset division, compensation and many more related things. These are some of the basic issues that a lawyer must take into consideration. Children suffer the utmost in this scenario. After taking care of all these points, a lawyer can successfully help the client in getting the divorce. The lawyer will definitely try to get the court decision in favor of the client. Divorce lawyer has to observe that every point that he or she presents in the court before the judge, has to be supported by convincing reasons. So that it can make the case strong enough to get the justice in the client’s favor.

In the court of law, the lawyer as well as the client must keep endurance and understanding so that both of them can mutually co-operate each other. During the court session, the victim can face many tough situations along with mental pressure. For such situation the lawyer must take care to handle this properly. Before finalizing a lawyer, do make sure to know that the lawyer has the proper certification in law, since this will help you in following the legal procedures properly and the chances of winning the case will be maximum. Another thing that matters for hiring a lawyer is that he must have good knowledge of law and experience as well, so that it helps him find out every details and particulars

Apart from all these, the lawyer also needs to spend lot of time and money on the divorce case. Usually, many people are not able to hire a highly experienced lawyer because they are pricey. A good and reputed divorce lawyer will certainly ask for big money. But one can also find an affordable lawyer who will charge very nominal and so one can easily strive for the case. One can take references of the lawyer from those people who have gone through these tough situations. Well, there are also many organizations that involve themselves in providing inexpensive services to the people seeking divorce and other associated issues such as child custody.

damey
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Orange County has over 10,000 Orange County attorneys or Orange County lawyers registered with the State Bar of California. Some popular cities within Orange County where Orange County attorneys may be practicing law are Aliso Viejo, Anaheim, Anaheim Hills, Atwood, Brea, Buena Park, Capistrano Beach, Corona del Mar, Costa Mesa, Coto de Caza, Cypress, Dana Point, El Toro, Foothill Ranch, Fountain Valley, Fullerton, Garden Grove, Huntington Beach, Irvine, La Habra, La Palma, Ladera Ranch, Laguna Beach, Laguna Hills, Laguna Niguel, Laguna Woods, Lake Forest, Los Alamitos, Midway City, Mission Viejo, Monarch Beach, Newport Beach, Orange, Placentia, Rancho Santa Margarita, San Clemente, San Juan Capistrano, Santa Ana, Santa Ana Heights, Seal Beach, Silverado, South Laguna, Stanton, Sunset Beach, Surfside, Trabuco Canyon, Tustin, Villa Park, Westminster, Yorba Linda, and others. With so many attorneys practicing law in Orange County California, how do you find the right Orange County divorce attorney or Orange County divorce lawyer who can help you with your particular divorce case and/or child custody case?

First, an experienced Orange County divorce attorney or Orange County divorce lawyer should have experience and legal expertise in the field of family law. Family law covers a variety of topics such as Divorce or dissolution of marriage, paternity, domestic partnerships, child custody and visitation, domestic violence, restraining orders, spousal support, child support, guardianship, adoptions, community property, division of property, and more. Some Orange County divorce attorneys may specialize or have more experience than others in specific areas of family law. For example, some Orange County attorneys are certified by the State Bar of California or an organization accredited by the State Bar of California as a specialist in the field of family law. Currently, Orange County has over 100 Certified Family Law Specialists (CFLS) registered with the State Bar of California. These Orange County attorneys have made efforts to become State Bar certified in the field of family law. In other words, of over 10,000 Orange County attorneys in California, approximately 100 are Certified Family Law Specialists (CFLS). However, just because an Orange County attorney is not a Certified Family Law Specialist does not mean he/she is not qualified and/or experienced to handle an Orange County family law, divorce and/or child custody case. In fact, there are many well-qualified Orange County attorneys or Orange County lawyers who do not hold State Bar certifications. If you are searching for an Orange County divorce attorney or Orange County divorce lawyer and you do not know what to look for or where to begin, narrowing down your search to only those who practice family law in Orange County may be a good place to begin.

Further, an experienced Orange County divorce attorney or Orange County divorce lawyer should have success representing clients on child custody and divorce cases in Orange County. He/she will likely be familiar with the judges, processes, and procedures in the Orange County family court which an attorney outside of Orange County may not have. However, just because an attorney or lawyer is not located in Orange County California does not mean he/she is not qualified and/or experienced to represent you on a family law, divorce, or child custody case in Orange County. Ultimately, if you have a child custody and/or divorce case in Orange County, you will want to investigate any prospective attorney’s background and experience and choose the right divorce attorney or divorce lawyer you believe can help you with your case and legal need.

© 2007 Child Custody Coach

Child Custody Coach supplies information, online materials, and coaching services to parents in the field of child custody, namely, divorce, child custody and visitation, child custody evaluations, 730 evaluations, parenting, and all issues related to child custody and divorce. “How to Win Child Custody – Proven Strategies that can Win You Custody and Save You Thousands in Attorney Cost!” is a unique child custody strategy guide written by The Custody Coach and made available by Child Custody Coach in an easy to read, understand, and apply E-Book format. Custody Match is an online consumer and family law attorney matching service to help you in your search for the right attorney for your divorce or child custody case. Custody Match can help you find the right family law attorney, divorce lawyer, or child custody attorney in your area.

Steven Carlson
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As common sense and statistics tell us, the leading cause of marital discord is money. Therefore, it is not surprising that many times divorce inventories have more red numbers than black ones.

Media sources often portray Hollywood stars of “power couples” divorcing. Included with the typical hype may be which party will get the mansion, vacation home, or car collection, but rarely is there any coverage about how the parties will divide debt.

The hard truth is that debt, just like assets, are included in the community estate. No matter what your own moral compass may register regarding your and your spouse’s debt, Texas case law establishes rules that might surprise you. First, debt incurred during the marriage is presumed to be community debt. See Cockerham v. Cockerham, 527 S.W.2d 162, 171 (Tex. 1975). There must be a sufficient amount of evidence to rebut this presumption.

Despite well established case law, Texas divorce decrees contain sections entitled “Debt to Husband” and “Debt to Wife”, which seemingly assign responsibility for each debt. These sections of the decree will identify each creditor, the account number, and account balance. At the close of the divorce proceedings, the divorced couple has a lengthy document called a final decree of divorce. The husband, wife, their attorneys, and the judge sign the final decree. Often times the parties order a certified copy of their divorce decree, throw it in a drawer or the safe deposit box, and rarely look at it again unless there are children and custody issues involved.

It may be months or years later when the phone rings and one of the parties is greeted by the monotone utterances of a bill collector reading a script off the computer screen. The dialogue may go something like this:

Bob the Bill Collector: “This is Bob with XYZ Visa. I’m calling because your account is 60 days past due, and I need to know when you plan to remit the past due amount and begin making payments.”

You: “What are you talking about? That’s my ex’s account. Our divorce decree says so. I haven’t been married to him/her in over (whatever time frame)! Call that deadbeat for the money.”

Bob: “Well, Mr. or Ms. So and So, that doesn’t mean you don’t owe the debt if your ex defaults.”

You: “I have a certified court order signed by me, my ex, our attorneys, and the judge saying that I don’t owe you anything for that account. That account is the ex’s problem. When you find him/her, let me know because he/she owes me money, too!”

Bob: “Your divorce decree might say you aren’t responsible, but the law says you are. Why don’t you give me a check by phone and we can get you on a payment plan.”

You: “Are you dense?! Did you hear anything I just said?! I’m not responsible and I’m not paying you one red cent on any of that debt. Call the ex but stop hounding me!”

Bob: “Mr. or Ms. So and So, I did hear you, and you’re wrong. No matter what your divorce decree says, you owe XYZ Visa. If you don’t begin making payments, XYZ Visa will report this delinquent account to the credit reporting agencies, and take action up to and including litigation.”

I’ll let you fill in the closing dialogue for yourself. You are angry and hang up the phone. You may think that Bob, located at some call center hundreds of miles away, has no idea what he’s talking about.

As unsettling as it may be, Bob is right. Unless the XYZ Visa was a party to your divorce suit and agreed to the terms of the final decree, you owe the money. It is highly unusual for a husband and wife or their attorneys to implead creditors into divorce actions due to complex legal issues such as jurisdiction and venue on both the state and federal level.

To understand how you could possibly be responsible for debt assigned to your ex, you must rewind to the point in time when the credit account was opened. You will need to look at the original account agreement. Almost no one keeps those documents, so order a copy of your credit report from one of the big three credit reporting agencies (EquiFax, Experian, or TransUnion). If the account shows up on your report, then you were more than likely a party to the credit agreement. Despite how the divorce decree allocates the debts (both secured and unsecured), the Court has no authority to modify the contractual obligations between the spouses and the creditor.

To say it another way, the court cannot take away the creditor’s right to proceed against either spouse(s) for payment of a community debt that was incurred prior to the decree. See Blake v. Amoco Fed. Credit Union, 900 S.W.2d 108 (Tex. App. – Houston [14th Dist.] 1995, no writ).

Let’s presume the account was originally opened in both your names and the creditor was looking to both you and your spouse’s income and assets to repay the obligation. This means that you are both responsible for the debt. But what about the divorce decree that spells out which assets and liabilities you and your ex were assigned? Is it a worthless piece of paper? No.

You will not be able to file a motion to enforce the divorce decree to get the defaulting spouse to pay the debt. An enforcement action will only assist if there was specific property, such as a vehicle, brokerage account, or personal property, the other spouse failed to turn over. But what about the debt? All is not lost. You could file an action for breach of contract against the defaulting spouse. The divorce decree is a binding contract that both parties voluntarily signed before the court.

If your ex has defaulted on one or multiple obligations, a suit for breach of contract may be cold comfort. As the old saying goes, you can’t squeeze blood from a turnip. Nevertheless, if you pursue this option, your damages may include any money you agreed to pay the creditor to keep the account out of collections, interest, and other miscellaneous expenses, such as attorney’s fees if any are incurred.

Depending on the size of the debt that the defaulting party hasn’t paid, you could seek relief in small claims court. Texas small claims courts have jurisdiction from $0.01 up to $5,000.00. These courts are designed for individuals who want to represent themselves and avoid hiring an attorney. This is where people go to argue the “do right” law. However, if the amount in controversy is greater than $5,000.00, then you must file suit in a county court, county court at law, or a district court with jurisdiction over the matter. At this point, you may consider hiring an attorney to prosecute the claim if there’s a reasonable possibility you could collect from the defaulting spouse. If possible, never let things get to this point by utilizing some of the suggestions outlined below.

Before you go to court or sign the final decree of divorce, you should research each and every account that the decree references no matter if that account falls under the “Husband” or “Wife” section. You both need to be aware how the accounts were established, and who and what the creditor deems liable. It may be in your best interests to refinance jointly held debt and establish the debt in each individual’s name if that is possible. If you or your spouse’s credit score is not strong enough to take this route, then you may consider liquidating assets to repay the debt before the divorce is final and close the account. It will be cold comfort to pay off a debt only to find out that your ex ran up a bunch of charges. A method may be to sell a car, a house, real property, or take a 401-K loan prior to finalizing the divorce to pay off debt. Because a mortgage and car loan can have long terms of payments, it may behoove you to sell those assets and let the other party acquire them on his or her own credit. By paying off those assets, those will no longer appear as debts on your credit report or create potential future problems if the other party fails to make payments to the creditor.

After your divorce is final, you may consider taking these actions:

1. Closing all joint accounts with a low balance or zero balance.

2. Request a credit report from one of the big three credit reporting agencies 90 days after the divorce is final. Look for any errors or discrepancies and aggressively challenge them in writing.

3. Ask each creditor to send you a duplicate notice for the joint accounts – even if the ex was assigned this account. Monitor to ensure that payments are being made on a regular, timely basis.

4. Make an offer for accord and satisfaction – basically, offer the creditor an amount of money in exchange for a release of your liability on the account assigned to your ex.

5. Communicate with the big three credit reporting agencies to notify them of the divorce and any name changes.

6. Create a debt reduction plan. There are many excellent resources available, such as Consumer Credit Counseling Services, Dave Ramsey, or a church based debt reduction plan.

Bottom line – your credit score is an asset just like your home or car. In fact, if you don’t have a good credit score, your ability to obtain consumer or business financing may be extremely limited.

Shannon Cavers is a Houston, Texas based lawyer practicing in divorce, family law and probate. More information and articles can be found at: Houston Divorce Lawyer

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We could get one for them next year, so we will wait to read the gossip reviews and facts going around.

We have also loved and recommend the type of games SONY has put out for years and years, they produce a good variety. These are the sort of kid games the kids really want. Having said that, it is true that Nintendo does have fabulous games. I’ll go even further Nintendo has games that we almost cannot live with out!

The classics are Zelda, Mario and the like, Shooters, and sports, and SONY undeniably has the top Kid games, of role playing, great shooters, etc. I could go on and on.

I enjoyed some unusual board games or vintage kid games which we played as a kid, but, in my opinion, none can match the shear power of enjoyment kids get now from the top computer game creators.

There is more and more use of games to put across important messages to kids. Some “keep them safe” type kid games are available that have been designed for tweens and teens. They are full blown actual computer games that take kids through the experience of being hood-winked by internet predators.

The reason that such a large investment has been put inot such games is so that kids can learn to recognize the signs and avoid the real thing.

The many kid games we have bought in our family can be categorized under various groups such as representations of indoor games, outdoor games, card games, board games, and even turing full circle some even imitate role playing in computer games, etc.

The outdoor kid games programs tend to include hyper-physical activities such as running, swimming, jumping , etc. All the kid games we like are set up to be user-friendly so that children can earn lots of little rewards.

Now turning away from computer kid games lets talk of some games which we play for real!

Choose two teams with an even number of kids on each team, line up half of them from each team at each end. Designate a starting line and a finish line about 10 feet away. Give each team a straw and a ping-pong ball. The winning team must work in relay to blow the ball back and forth, until there are no more relay members left. The first to finish is the winning team.

Children want to be entertained, not patronized by their kid games. And, going back to computer games, from a character design standpoint, at least Sonic was blue.

Children are not children for very long and the game company that ignores their future spending power does so at it’s own peril. The problem I detect is that the games companies are focusing to much on the biggest market, and on older geek players. Why can’t a gaming console cater better for the development of our children, teens and adults. Big games creating companies should do better. Not just line up all their output for high spending sad, spotty geeks who have nothing else to do.

Child play games, if they are to be successful in allowing your inner child to become visible to you and others, often need to be simple, silly, frivolous, childish, light and airy. The reduction of stress and anxiety in our lives requires that we relax, lighten up and become less serious and intense.

Nintendo is for children. The children are the future. OK. Nintendo is a business, and it needs to make a profit, fine. But while selling better games fo well balanced and intelligent children they do not need to completely abandon every single hardcore gamer.

I have seen Nintendo’s business development and products over the years. They must have made very many blunders in the past years including now bringing out a even smaller Gameboy advance, yet they have the Gameboy SP and a Gameboy DS out as well. Also, just because Nintendo says that you can download games from every one of 20 years from its library, this doesn’t mean that they will be all be good games.

Lucky for us their all time greatest titles are all available for the Game Boy Advance!

Steve Evans
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So you are saying stop my Divorce. Well that’s easy to say but there are a lot of factors to be considered before this can happen. What brought you to this point? What can you do to make things different? And I always look at both sides so you really need to ask yourself if this is really what you want.

Don’t get me wrong I absolutely do not advocate divorce. I advocate doing the right thing. In fact I wish more people would ask to stop my divorce. With the divorce rate hovering about 50% that tells me that divorce is too easy to get without any effort going back into the relationship.

Too many people think the relationship will be a long standing honeymoon and don’t account for what the future may hold. Bills, children, housing, job loss, security, and 100 other things that lead people to asking for help to stop my divorce. Maybe we should be saying stop my wedding if these issues are not addressed ahead of time. Maybe we need more education before allowing two people to marry.

Now I am not just saying this for an article. I have been married over 20 years and let me tell you there were times when I wondered if I would be asking someone to stop my divorce. The key is we never gave up and always talked things out. That’s the major problem in most relationships these days. There is absolutely no communication.

Before you get to the point of asking someone to stop my divorce take a long hard look at what got you there and try stopping it on your own. If I could offer one piece of advice that I think was and has been most prudent in my marriage is never go to bed angry even if it takes all night to make things right.

Debbie Mans
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In the United States, there are statistics that indicate that half of all marriages will end up in a divorce or legal separation. Often people do not differentiate between divorce and legal separation. Both divorce and legal separation refer to the situation when a couple decides not to live together anymore. But being separated is much different than being divorced.

What does legal separation mean? Legal separation generally refers to a court order which acknowledges that a couple is no longer living together and that all the issues regarding the marriage have been resolved. A legal separation generally means that both parties reached an agreement concerning child custody, child visitation, child support, spousal support or alimony, distribution of property, attorney fees, and personal conduct. However, in a legal separation both parties remain married to each other. Indeed spouses who are just legally separated are not allowed to marry another person.

Divorce, also known as a decree of dissolution of marriage, is also a court order but it is for the purpose to dissolve or terminate a marriage. Both parties are allowed to marry another person following a divorce since they have returned to an unmarried status. An annulment differs from a divorce on the ground that this process is meant at simply canceling a marriage.

What are the benefits of a legal separation? Legal separation often takes place when both parties prefer to stay married for religious reasons. That’s why legal separation is often coined catholic legal separation since it preserves the religious marriage. Legal separation is not only pursued for religious reasons, but also for tax reasons. Unlike a divorce, the non-custodial parent may be able to deduct from his/her income taxes spousal support payments. Some also prefer not to wait for the state statutory waiting period for termination of marital status. That’s one of the reasons why a legal separation is often pursued to set the parameters for dealing with one another while living separate and apart while keeping the married status, and leaving an opportunity for a reunion or resumption of marriage. However being legally separated is not a requirement before filing a divorce. In other words, a legal separation is not a prerequisite of the dissolution of a marriage or Divorce.

If you are considering a legal separation, divorce, or dissolution of marriage you would be wise to consult an attorney who can inform you legally about your particular divorce or legal separation matter.

© 2007 Child Custody Coach

Child Custody Coach supplies information, online materials, and coaching services to parents in the field of child custody, namely, divorce, child custody and visitation, child custody evaluations, 730 evaluations, parenting, and all issues related to child custody and divorce. “How to Win Child Custody – Proven Strategies that can Win You Custody and Save You Thousands in Attorney Cost!” is a unique child custody strategy guide written by The Custody Coach and made available by Child Custody Coach in an easy to read, understand, and apply E-Book format. Custody Match is an online consumer and family law attorney matching service to help you in your search for the right attorney for your divorce or child custody case. Custody Match can help you find the right family law attorney, divorce lawyer, or child custody attorney in your area.

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Life sure is full of twists and turns, sometimes taking us in directions we never expected to go in. In the 1960’s, when I was born, little girls were groomed to depend on men for a fulfilling family life. Learning to cook, clean and be ladylike were the norm back then. Watching Snow White, Sleeping Beauty and other lovely Disney movies, we waited for our hadsome princes to come take us away. For me, that never happened. Looking fashionable and cooking gourmet meals for men just didn’t do it for me, somehow. I kept my figure, wore high heels and pretty dresses, had my hair done every eight weeks and did the whole Stepford Wife thing (I can make a kiler batch of cookies), but felt totally unfulfilled and worn out. My husband always found things to complain about, no matter what I did. I felt unappreciated and bored in the lifestyle I thought I’d wanted all along.

Marriage in itself is a fine institution for those for whom it worked out in. In my case, my marriage was disappointing, and a lesson in self-preservation. That picture-perfect husband of mine looked like he walked off a model’s runway somewhere, but behind that dazzling, pretty face was the heart of a cold, heartless, psychotic and dangerous monster. He morphed himself into an angry, dangerous drug and alcohol addict, after spending too much time with his womanizing, drunk friends. I Divorced him after enduring a roller coaster of problems, threats and his infidelities. Enough was enough. After trying to get him help, with no success, I realized he wasn’t going to get better, and concluded that if I valued my life, I had to go and not look back. His putting a knife to my throat was the last straw. That was ten years ago.

After my marriage ended, I was in my thirties, footloose and fancy free. Going out with my other single or divorced friends, we had a lot of fun going dancing, and out to restaurants together. We met up every week in downtown Cleveland high-class watering holes, then would go out to eat afterwards. Together, we visited places like Jamaica, Mexico and other exotic travel destinations, just for fun. I even lived in Mexico for two years, which was an adventure I’ll never forget. As time went on, one by one, my friends and I all started dating new men and saw each other less often. My next boyfriend lived in another city, and I moved there to be with him later on. Big mistake.

My last relationship lasted for two years to a compulsively lying, travelling salesman who it turned out had more ex-wives then he’d told me about. During his travels, he hooked up with women, and was eventually busted later, when I found phone numbers and makeup on his shirts. He had excuses for everything, but I learned he couldn’t be trusted and left. He freaked out and stabbed my hand with a fork as I moved out. He was put in jail and I got a restraining order out against him as I moved far away and never looked back. Good riddance.

A few years later, here I am, happily single and proud of it. My life is full and complete, and I’m happier now than I ever was as a girlfriend or wife. Why is it so wonderful to be alone, you may ask? For starters, if I want to date, I can, but I can go home to my own place afterwards. No worries about making dinner every night. I can and do, eat cereal for dinner, without ridicule. Captain Crunch is my favorite. My second childhood has arrived. I have the whole bed to myself (except for my cats, who sleep on my feet). If I want to take a trip, I just grab a friend and off we go. No long lectures about how that kind of thing is frivolous. I make enough money to live well, and do what I want.

Ok, so there are a few things about being single that aren’t easy. I have to clean the cat box, take out the trash and there was nobody to help me cope with a slipped disk in my back, which left me sleeping on the floor for weeks, due to the severe pain. No situation is perfect, and it would’ve been easier to have a partner to get through these things. But, I made it through my pre-concieved list of undesirable situations, and was stronger for it, later. Before, I was more dependent on men. Now, I choose not to be. I have no idea how to fix my own car, or hang something really heavy on the wall. So, handymen and mechanics are hired to help out with those. With practise, a workable system forms, making it easier to do all sorts of activities and chores oneself.

At this point in life, I date but only a little. My world is complete and I enjoy my solitude. If I want companionship, I call up friends or play with my pets. Animals are loving and make great companions. No, I’m not a crazy cat lady. Just one who likes to do things my way, and is much more sane and happy by being free to be myself. Men ask me out here and there, I enjoy their company but tell them that I am looking for just friends. Life taught me what works best for me. I like the unconditional acceptance of my pets, the ease of working from my home office, for my job. Nobody scolds me if I didn’t do the laundry and nobody forgets our anniversary. Every year I buy myself a gift at Valentines’ Day. I have no problem with this holiday. though some single people I know, dread it. Why dread it? It’s a celebration of love. I call my parents and tell them I love them, pet my pets, and talk to friends. Maybe, I go and get a latte at Starbucks. Life is good, and who knew being single could feel so good? I now “see the light”.

Ten years ago, I’d have said that anyone who felt like this had given up on life and love. I haven’t, not at all, my priorities have changed, though. Now, I can live out sort of a combination of midlife crisis and a second childhood, by watching movies like Shrek, Harry Potter and Finding Nemo without boring and annoying my remote control-obsessed ex, who would rather watch the stock market on CNBC twenty four hours a day. I can buy a nicer car that before, seemed totally unpractical to my previous life as our budget wouldn’t allow it. On holidays, I’m not stuck visiting his fighting relatives, and can sleep in or celebrate with those I want to be with. Selfish, maybe, but for the first time in my life, it feels good to think of myself instead of putting others first.

For anyone dreading being single, remember, it’s all in your head how to react to the situation. You can be miserable and lonely, or you can get out there and enjoy your life, do what you want to do and later settle down if you choose to. Things aren’t black and white, they’re grey. Who knows what life brings us. I go with the flow, and if someone worthwhile does happen into my life at some point, after checking his criminal history, maybe I’d settle down again. But for now, I’m having too much fun being me, living life to the fullest and working hard. I’m no longer dependent on anyone and it feels great. Freedom feels good. Do whatever works best for you, but the bottom line is, live a happy life. Make whatever situation you’re in work for you, too. Life is too short to be stuck in a relationship that makes you miserable.

Carolyn McFann
http://www.articlesbase.com/women’s-issues-articles/being-a-happily-single-and-independant-woman-after-leaving-a-bad-marriage-126030.html

There are some common mistakes which men getting over Divorce often make. It can be helpful for you to keep a few important tipsin mind so that the transition can be much easier for you!

If you just read the last part of that sentence, this is the key point– it is a transition. However long or brief your divorce took from start to finish, and whether it was by mutual agreement or not, you are in the position of making the transition from married to single. While it may be painful to some degree, it does not need to be nearly as difficult as you may think.

Men getting over divorce often make the mistake of doing either of two things. Either they want to rush directly into a new relationship, or they firmly tell themselves that they will never become seriously involved with anyone ever again! If you do not make these mistakes, getting over divorce will be much smoother for you.

If you wish to make the transition successfully, you must begin by letting go of the marriage which is now over, and your former spouse. You must gain a clear perspective that they are in the past. While this can be hard if you have children to consider, even interacting with your ex for the sake of your children does not need to mean that she, personally, is still a part of your own life.

Men who are getting over divorce can do this most successfully by focusing on their own lives. If you are like most adults, there are probably many aspects of your life which can benefit from your attention– and you will benefit, also. Whether it includes a job or career, hobbies, or other personal interests, this is the best time to put all of those things first on your priority list. You can also develop some new interests which you did not have time for before now.

Although opinions on this differ, men getting over divorce should remain free of new relationships. In addition to it being essential that you have left your prior marriage in the past, your time is best spent if it is spent on yourself. If you do not grant yourself a sufficient amount of time, you could make the common mistake of becoming involved too quickly with someone else– and unconsciously expecting this new person to make up for the absence of your ex.

Men getting over divorce should allow themselves adequate time before even considering a new involvement. While it would be very unfair to a new person if you were still struggling with the after-effects of your divorce, there is yet another equally-relevant reason for putting some time into your own interests. Getting over divorce is almost never easy, but if you keep your focus on your own life before you think about having someone else in it, this can help you to gain a newfound strength, peace, and hope for your future. And when you think about it, you will surely agree that you do deserve it!

Daniel Hartman
http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/tips-for-men-getting-over-divorce-732451.html

Divorce is indeed one of the most traumatic situations that can happen in someone’s life. In other words, divorce is the end of a married life as the husband and wife separate from each other. Their relationship is in problem and so they decide to get separated. Due to some reason, they are not able to cope up with each other and thus they decide to get separated from each other. Well, marriage is one such thing through which almost every person undergoes. Marriage and divorce are two such diverse things that many people may have to face this situation. Every body gets married with the intention to lead a happy and peaceful life. No one marries with the purpose of getting divorce, but sometimes it may happen that divorce may become the last restore out of a really ugly situation in someone life. So, to deal with this kind of situation, a best divorce lawyer is one who helps the victim to get the divorce.

Divorce is really a harrowing experience of someone’s life. This is a case that definitely needs a lawyer who will assist the couples in legal matters to get separated. Best Divorce lawyer New York helps its clients in getting the decision in their favour. A Divorce lawyer is meant to represent his clients through the case in the court of law. The best divorce lawyer is well efficient to help out his client as he is well familiar with all the legal rules and laws. There are many qualified and experienced divorce lawyers in New York who work towards guiding couples willing to get divorced. Whenever there is a case of divorce, best divorce lawyer New York has to consider every step with caution as it is one of the most serious matters in case of family law.

No matters in which part of the United States the victim is residing and so one can consider any best divorce lawyer that one want .There are certain things that one needs to look into before hiring a best divorce lawyer. The lawyer must be certified so that one can believe that the lawyer is efficient enough to handle your case. One can consult another person whoever has undergone through such painful experience in their life. The victim can also look into yellow pages that help will him in finding the perfect lawyer. Today, there are online websites that provide some information regarding an efficient lawyer. One can look into the total experiences he has to handle the case very efficiently. Well, the lawyers are also very much dedicated to bring the case in the favour of his client. The experience and talent of the client does help in making him to turn the case whenever he feels.

Best divorce lawyer has to be very cautious that every point that he or she puts in front of the judge has to be supported by valid reasons so that a fair decision can be taken. Best divorce lawyer New York needs to have an idea about various situations and understanding, so that he can guide his client in a best possible manner. During the divorce session, the couples may have to go through mental pressure. The case may see a lot of problem in the matter of child custody, division of assets, deciding over the visiting time with child and others. These types of cases are sensitive issues that requires careful handling by a best divorce lawyer.

damey
http://www.articlesbase.com/law-articles/best-divorce-lawyer-new-york-helps-to-make-lawsuit-favor-of-the-client-138475.html

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