So you are saying stop my Divorce. Well that’s easy to say but there are a lot of factors to be considered before this can happen. What brought you to this point? What can you do to make things different? And I always look at both sides so you really need to ask yourself if this is really what you want.
Don’t get me wrong I absolutely do not advocate divorce. I advocate doing the right thing. In fact I wish more people would ask to stop my divorce. With the divorce rate hovering about 50% that tells me that divorce is too easy to get without any effort going back into the relationship.
Too many people think the relationship will be a long standing honeymoon and don’t account for what the future may hold. Bills, children, housing, job loss, security, and 100 other things that lead people to asking for help to stop my divorce. Maybe we should be saying stop my wedding if these issues are not addressed ahead of time. Maybe we need more education before allowing two people to marry.
Now I am not just saying this for an article. I have been married over 20 years and let me tell you there were times when I wondered if I would be asking someone to stop my divorce. The key is we never gave up and always talked things out. That’s the major problem in most relationships these days. There is absolutely no communication.
Before you get to the point of asking someone to stop my divorce take a long hard look at what got you there and try stopping it on your own. If I could offer one piece of advice that I think was and has been most prudent in my marriage is never go to bed angry even if it takes all night to make things right.
Debbie Mans
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i really need to stop my parents from getting a divorce ?
my mom wants to devorce my dad and my dad wants to stay married how do i stop my mom
and please none of that [well its ur parents choice ] crap i need to know how to stop it
honey,
you can’t change her mind. for whatever reason,she’s not happy. don’t think about yourself,because it isn’t about you.
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Understand it.
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You can tell Mom it’s hurting you to watch her leave Dad, but ultimately you cannot stop it if she won’t change her mind.
I’m sorry. Good luck.
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I would advise you to have a family meeting. You all need to know how each other is feeling about this and how it can be solved whether it is your parents staying together or divorcing. If your mother isn’t in love with your father anymore, you cannot force her to fall back in love and it is not worth the effort. I have gone through a divorce with my parents and yes it was extremely difficult in the beginning, but I know it was a good better choice than putting up with them staying in a loveless marriage.
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my life experience
You can’t do a thing to stop it. All you can do is accept it. Understand this, it’s not because of you and it’s not your fault.
But if she’s determined to go, she will leave.
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Maybe suggest they see a marriage counselor. Also, maybe they should separate for a bit. You really have no idea what their relationship was like before you were born, or how it is now. We kids tend to see our folks as parents, and not as regular people, who deal with problems of their own.
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The exact tools used to put the broken pieces back together will depend on the reason for the problem, which can only be dealt with by your parents as a couple.However your concern is understandable as the three of you are members of a family so in that sense you are definitely involved. I would try and get your mother to sit down and talk to your dad about the issues that are not working for her and the changes she would like to see, the advantage here is that your dad still wants to be in the relationship. Tell your mum how important is for you to at least give it a try to keep the family together.
As you are not a marriage counsellor it will be difficult to find a quick solution by yourself, it really is up to your parents to work out their differences. Good luck!
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http://www.a-better-child.org/site/963922/page/874315
You sound so desperate to help your father win your mother back. Have you talked to your mother about her reasons for wanting a divorce. After talking to her and really listening to her reasons you may be able to better understand why they shouldn’t be together. Your father is in pain right now, but I would bet money that if your mother isn’t happy, your father isn’t happy either. He is probably just hurting and feeling desperate because he is afraid of the changes that are inevitable if they do indeed divorce. Both of your parents deserve to be happy, and they may be happier once they are not together. There isn’t anything that you can do other than to talk to them both separately and ask them the reasons for their separation. Maybe if they open up and tell you, then you can give one of your parents some insight into what the other parent is really feeling and missing from their marriage. Other than that, just support them and let them know that you love them both and just want to see them happy.
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