Comments on: Stop a Divorce Before Your Spouse Moves on http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on Positive Peaceful Communication Is Possible Tue, 10 Aug 2010 17:26:59 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 By: Jamal http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on/comment-page-1#comment-860 Jamal Sun, 21 Feb 2010 16:56:59 +0000 http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on#comment-860 Wow. That's kinda' weird. I"m not a mental health professional but it sounds like some kind of psychotic depression. It's strange. You need to try and get him to see a good psychiatrist...and I mean a very good one...you can't afford to waste time or chances with him, I think. Something is not at all right with him...maybe his mom and dad can help? Happy Birthday...and God Bless You. Hope this gets straightened out. He might be bipolar too...it could be something else. Are you absolutely certain he's not doing drugs? People can get hooked on doing crack and totally flip out like this. Was he spending money buy you did not know where it was going? This sounds krazy but maybe you should hire a private investigator to follow him around for a couple days to see what he's up to. (for his own good)<br><b>References : </b><br> Wow. That’s kinda’ weird.

I"m not a mental health professional but it sounds like some kind of psychotic depression.

It’s strange.

You need to try and get him to see a good psychiatrist…and I mean a very good one…you can’t afford to waste time or chances with him, I think. Something is not at all right with him…maybe his mom and dad can help?

Happy Birthday…and God Bless You. Hope this gets straightened out.
He might be bipolar too…it could be something else.

Are you absolutely certain he’s not doing drugs? People can get hooked on doing crack and totally flip out like this. Was he spending money buy you did not know where it was going?

This sounds krazy but maybe you should hire a private investigator to follow him around for a couple days to see what he’s up to. (for his own good)
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]]> By: Mr.s http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on/comment-page-1#comment-859 Mr.s Sun, 21 Feb 2010 16:54:59 +0000 http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on#comment-859 Did you try to backtrack? Did this behavior happen all of a sudden one year ago? Is there anything specific that might have had this life changing impact? Did you try finding him and sitting down to talk with him? Be sincere when you talk to him, approach him and start off slow with questions. Make him think back to why he loved you in the first place. I'm sorry this is happening to you, I hope I helped and I hope you and your husband get back on your feet. Also I must add, how is your child feel about this? You did not mention him too much.<br><b>References : </b><br> Did you try to backtrack? Did this behavior happen all of a sudden one year ago? Is there anything specific that might have had this life changing impact? Did you try finding him and sitting down to talk with him? Be sincere when you talk to him, approach him and start off slow with questions. Make him think back to why he loved you in the first place.
I’m sorry this is happening to you, I hope I helped and I hope you and your husband get back on your feet.
Also I must add, how is your child feel about this? You did not mention him too much.
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]]> By: clc897 http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on/comment-page-1#comment-858 clc897 Sun, 21 Feb 2010 16:52:59 +0000 http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on#comment-858 He is definitely depressed, but there is an inner problem inside of him. He needs to do counseling not go to classes. He needs to be able to cope with you. He is homeless? Like living on the street? Seems like he had a good job and just abandoned it all of a sudden. This is very odd. He had a mental breakdown of some sort. Man, quite odd I really don't know what to say. I am sorry? Happy birthday though! I hope everything turns out well for you! :X<br><b>References : </b><br> He is definitely depressed, but there is an inner problem inside of him. He needs to do counseling not go to classes. He needs to be able to cope with you. He is homeless? Like living on the street? Seems like he had a good job and just abandoned it all of a sudden. This is very odd. He had a mental breakdown of some sort. Man, quite odd I really don’t know what to say. I am sorry? Happy birthday though! I hope everything turns out well for you! :X
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]]> By: Taylor I http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on/comment-page-1#comment-857 Taylor I Sun, 21 Feb 2010 11:50:06 +0000 http://www.idontwanttotalktoex.com/easy-divorce/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on#comment-857 <b>Is my spouse depressed?</b><br>So I wrote my whole story and it was far to long so I am going to make bullet point :) My husband was the best father and spouse I could ask for but a little over a year ago things started to spiral down and FAST... here are some thing that have happened * Started abandoning the family to hang out with old High School Friends. He said it was an escape for him but then would cry (NOT a cryer) because of what he was doing to the family but said he couldn't stop himself. * Made very irrational decisions... that he would have NEVER made before * Would go to counseling and we would be getting on good grounds but then he would go right back into the abandoning/crying stage *Quit his great job at a prestigious University as a Grant Accountant *Spent unreasonable amounts of money on nothing * He doesn't do any drugs nor does he cheat when he would be out with his friends (drank some) but no longer see's them at all. In fact his best friend has not spoken to him in months. *Then (since he has no job) has had to pawn valuable items * Has now completely isolated himself and says the only person he talks to is me and that is at best minimal * Is currently homeless but refuses to move back home with me because he says everything feels hopeless (his words are he see's no light in his darkness) * Just today he didn't show up for my birthday and this was his reasoning "I dont have the heart to face you.....Im nothing....i dont have anything to give you on your b-day....it really hit me that i dont deserve anything from you not your money, time, effort, ....nothing....I had a dream.....I LOVE YOU SO MUCH....but I can't come to grips with myself. I know you forgive me I cant forgive myself. I want forgive myself and just come home....but I cant......I dont deserve to.....it haunts me every night" If someone could give me some guidance. Divorce is not an option!! Is he Depressed? Is this normal depression behavior? Is there anything I can say/do? Thanks for reading this... CLC- He is living in his car... so not technically on the streets. With the economy the way it is, even with his degree he can't find a job. Thanks for the B-Day love :) Mr. S- He had just been promoted and it was a very stressful job... These are all diff events that have happen within the year but yes the weird behaviors did start all of a sudden. We talk on a regular basis and we both discuss the way we feel about it all. He says he wants to come home, he is just very scared. He knows now more than ever why he loves me... I have stuck with him through it all... I am the only person still around and I am the one making sure he is eating. I am just in over my head. I feel so sorry for him. We have two daughters (4 and 2) and they are actually doing very well *patting myself on the back* They miss their daddy but he comes around and see's them. We also have taken quit a few family trips to theme parks throughout the year for them. Thanks for asking :) Is my spouse depressed?
So I wrote my whole story and it was far to long so I am going to make bullet point :) My husband was the best father and spouse I could ask for but a little over a year ago things started to spiral down and FAST… here are some thing that have happened

* Started abandoning the family to hang out with old High School Friends. He said it was an escape for him but then would cry (NOT a cryer) because of what he was doing to the family but said he couldn’t stop himself.

* Made very irrational decisions… that he would have NEVER made before

* Would go to counseling and we would be getting on good grounds but then he would go right back into the abandoning/crying stage

*Quit his great job at a prestigious University as a Grant Accountant

*Spent unreasonable amounts of money on nothing

* He doesn’t do any drugs nor does he cheat when he would be out with his friends (drank some) but no longer see’s them at all. In fact his best friend has not spoken to him in months.

*Then (since he has no job) has had to pawn valuable items

* Has now completely isolated himself and says the only person he talks to is me and that is at best minimal

* Is currently homeless but refuses to move back home with me because he says everything feels hopeless (his words are he see’s no light in his darkness)

* Just today he didn’t show up for my birthday and this was his reasoning "I dont have the heart to face you…..Im nothing….i dont have anything to give you on your b-day….it really hit me that i dont deserve anything from you not your money, time, effort, ….nothing….I had a dream…..I LOVE YOU SO MUCH….but I can’t come to grips with myself. I know you forgive me I cant forgive myself. I want forgive myself and just come home….but I cant……I dont deserve to…..it haunts me every night"

If someone could give me some guidance. Divorce is not an option!! Is he Depressed? Is this normal depression behavior? Is there anything I can say/do? Thanks for reading this…
CLC- He is living in his car… so not technically on the streets. With the economy the way it is, even with his degree he can’t find a job. Thanks for the B-Day love :)

Mr. S- He had just been promoted and it was a very stressful job… These are all diff events that have happen within the year but yes the weird behaviors did start all of a sudden. We talk on a regular basis and we both discuss the way we feel about it all. He says he wants to come home, he is just very scared. He knows now more than ever why he loves me… I have stuck with him through it all… I am the only person still around and I am the one making sure he is eating. I am just in over my head. I feel so sorry for him. We have two daughters (4 and 2) and they are actually doing very well *patting myself on the back* They miss their daddy but he comes around and see’s them. We also have taken quit a few family trips to theme parks throughout the year for them. Thanks for asking :)

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