Children are involved in these bitter battles, and respect and attitudes manifest later in life,
Suicide is prevalent in the young,
I put my hands up’ because am guilty of this’ I divorced early in my younger days,
Solicitor’s encouraged divorce for reasons of self interest,
and are not interested in emotional family breakdowns.
Your views please
seems to me you have it backwards. breakdown of family life is the cause of divorce. Divorce may seem like a bad resolution, but many of the alternatives are even worse. on the other hand I suppose in some cases reconciliation may have been possible, but if nobody actually pursues it, was the union really worth all that much?
I agree it is the children who do suffer. But I myself, would never stay with someone I didn’t love.
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No, hastily getting married is the problem.
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There’s too much temptation about now sex isn’t a conquest it’s free and easy to get..
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No, I think easy marriage is the problem. Without social constraints, as you see in societies that arrange marriages, stopping people from bonding is probably impossible. That should be the goals of legislatures, to prevent as many marriages as it can by limiting stupid parings. People learn primarily from their mistakes. Using the school system to teach conflict management, money management, and sex education would go a long way to limiting foolish marriages and foolish divorces.
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NO, Promiscuity and easy marriage has caused it.
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Damn straight!
There’s no better environment for building a family life than a home where the parents HATE each other and are staying together "for the kids"!
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Why don’t we blame the root of the problem two people that did not need to be married in the first place? To say divorce is causing the breakdown of family life is rather lazy and is like blaming a symptom for the disease.
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If there’s a problem (a breakdown if you will), I’d suggest it’s related to easy marriage.
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Yes i agree with you.. it seems the negative things in life can strangely have a say, its to do with politically correct and all that stuff..
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seems to me you have it backwards. breakdown of family life is the cause of divorce. divorce may seem like a bad resolution, but many of the alternatives are even worse. on the other hand I suppose in some cases reconciliation may have been possible, but if nobody actually pursues it, was the union really worth all that much?
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Divorce and homosexuality together side by side have caused the breakdown of family life.
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No totally, but it is a contributing factor.
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I think divorce is more a symptom than a cause. When it gets as far as divorce, then the breakdown has already happened.
The disintegration of family life is microcosmic reflection of what’s happening to humanity.
So much greed and moral ruthlessness that tears at the fabric of community until we are undone, unravelled, closed- hearted and turned in on ourselves.
Somewhere along the line we seem to have gotten so scared of responsibility and commitment. Everybody owes everybody and no-one’s paying up for fear of being short-changed.
Sorry Denis, I meant to turn this around and put a positive slant on it because this is still a beautiful world and I really don’t feel as negative as I sound. I love people, I just don’t always understand ‘em. Who does? xx
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No divorce is ever easy,Oh they mad the paperwork easy and pretty soon they will have drive up divorce windows. But I don’t care what any body says, it is never easy. I think it most surely has ruined a so called normal married life for no one tries to mend a marriage any more and many people even marry with the view that if it doesn’t work I’ll divorce.
The experience is devastating to all parties involved, and especially the children. They think that they are the problem why mommy and daddy got divorced. And no matter what the parents say to them deep down they blame themselves. Some never get over it.
I too have experienced this, but I was fortunate for 2 reasons. I didn’t have any children, but it was one of the worst things in my life. And the church did give me an annulment, because they said the marriage was a lie from the beginning. I wanted children and he didn’t of course other things were also taken into consideration, but it’s long passed and no need to go into it. It all seems like it never happened right now, but at the time I thought I had lost my faith and couldn’t practice it anymore. Believe me this cut right into my heart. I can only think what would have happened if there were children involved. Thank God I met and married the man I can spend the rest of my life with. However after the experience I vowed I would not marry again, and if I did, I would never go through that experience again. And I didn’t. Marriage is a sacred bond between two people and is not to be taken lightly. It’s a vocation for two people to live as one and bring forth children. Not to live as individuals have a child and go your separate ways.
There is a contract involved, but the two parties also take a vow and that vow is usually take in the name of God.
I am not proud of my early years, most of us aren’t. But how many learn from these mistakes and try to live a good life and how many keep doing the same thing over and over again.
I thank God everyday for the graces and blessings he has bestowed on me and my family, and had I not had any faith at all who knows how I would have turned out. God bless you, Merry Christmas!
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Roman Catholic, Pray the Rosary daily.
What do you think it must be like for children to be in the middle of warring parents who don’t divorce? Is it good for them to feel the tension, hear the rows and worse going on round them? Far better for children to be with one parent who is happy and fairly secure than two who can’t stand each other!
My mother stayed with my father who was a bad alcoholic mainly for the sake of the kids but also as it was the late 60s, the days of Kathy Come Home and there would have been a chance that she would have had to leave us with my father or put us into care. I certainly do not want those days back – I wish for my mother’s sake that she did not have to go through that hell because the alternatives could have been so bad. Luckily divorce is easier and acceptable now and no, I do not think it has led to ba breakdown of family life. Living in a family where there is no love, trust – or even liking betwen the adults is no life at all!!! However hard a parent tries to hide it, kids are not stupid and can pick up on that atmosphere fast.
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