Hi, im 13 years old and my parents have been fighting for a couple years now. Just five minutes ago, the mail came and on one of the envelopes the sender was a divorce mediator. i just want to know before i have to deal with the humiliation before school starts back up again.
( please dont tell me that it isnt my business and i should wait for them to tell me. They are fighting right now and I dont know what to do.)
well I’m kinda in the same situation, accept for me thr is a much bigger chance of divorce for my parents. y else do u think that they will get a Divorce??
recently i have found out that my dad had an affair, it was horrible, I’m only 12 and I’ve been lookin 2 discuss things somewhere and i have found here!
my advice wud be 2 ask the parent tht u trust more or tht u are more comfortable talking 2.
i found out tht my dad was having an affair through facebook, i guessed my mums password on it and i looked on her messages and it wasnt hard 2 tell tht she was talking about my dad sleeping with another women. it was really hard to tell my mum that i found out, i jst went up 2 her and told her, it was the hardest thing i had ever done in my life, i even told my friends before i told my mum. i feel really uncomfortable around my dad now, part of me wants him 2 stay but part of me wants him 2 go. if it helps, talk 2 ure friends, i did and it helped alot. i look at my friends happy lives and i just wish that i could have their lives! i am about to cry so im gnna stop now ,
hope this helped,
good luck
emma xx
What humiliation? So your parents marriage didn’t work out, get over it. Which is worse, living with them in separate houses, or listening to them wanting to rip each others heads off?
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Daughter of divorced parents.
Yes you should ask them, but remember that it is their marriage. And yes it is sad for you to see it but they must be happy and if being together is not the answer, they should go their own ways
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you won’t be humiliated divorces are so common! just look back at them and say i know you guys aren’t happy your fighting all the time. are you getting a divorce. it is your business in a way because it does affect you to. however their issues aren’t your business. your parents love you don’t forget that.
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well I’m kinda in the same situation, accept for me thr is a much bigger chance of divorce for my parents. y else do u think that they will get a divorce??
recently i have found out that my dad had an affair, it was horrible, I’m only 12 and I’ve been lookin 2 discuss things somewhere and i have found here!
my advice wud be 2 ask the parent tht u trust more or tht u are more comfortable talking 2.
i found out tht my dad was having an affair through facebook, i guessed my mums password on it and i looked on her messages and it wasnt hard 2 tell tht she was talking about my dad sleeping with another women. it was really hard to tell my mum that i found out, i jst went up 2 her and told her, it was the hardest thing i had ever done in my life, i even told my friends before i told my mum. i feel really uncomfortable around my dad now, part of me wants him 2 stay but part of me wants him 2 go. if it helps, talk 2 ure friends, i did and it helped alot. i look at my friends happy lives and i just wish that i could have their lives! i am about to cry so im gnna stop now ,
hope this helped,
good luck
emma xx
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If they are intent on this, than the child can demand Joint Custody of them, and not the other way around.
They can be told that the children need to remain in the home and each parent can live there for three weeks, than switch. Once a week the parent not in residence takes the children out to dinner. While in the home, the parent does not date or have overnight guests, other than relatives.
On the off weeks, the parent rents a room, stays with relatives or friends, or they can split the cost of a one bedroom apartment that they share. The priority here is the children not having their lives disrupted by the choices of the parents. The parents’ lives are equally disrupted and they split the cost of being in the home. If child support is ordered, both parents can pay into a trust fund that pays out to cover the children’s expenses. Anything over and above those expenses remains there to collect interest and goes toward a college education.
When the children are grown, and completely out of the home, than the property can be sold or whatever the parents want to do with it.
This is called Bird Nest Custody. The children remain in the nest and the bird take turns being there.
http://tinyurl.com/GiveKidsAChoice
Here’s some books and references for the parents.
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10 Stupid Things Couples do to Mess up Their Relationships
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Couples-do-to-Mess-up-Their-Relationships/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060512606/?itm=7
10 Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Men-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Lives/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780641865411/?itm=8
10 Stupid Things Women Do to Mess up Their Lives
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Ten-Stupid-Things-Women-Do-to-Mess-up-Their-Lives/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060976491/?itm=3
Stop Whining, Start Living
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Stop-Whining-Start-Living/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060838331/?itm=2
Stupid Things Parents Do to Mess Up Their Kids
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Stupid-Things-Parents-Do-to-Mess-Up-Their-Kids/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780060933791/?itm=12
The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/The-Proper-Care-and-Feeding-of-Marriage/Dr-Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780061142826/?itm=4
Woman Power: Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life
Dr. Laura Schlessinger
http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Woman-Power/Laura-Schlessinger/e/9780641817847/?itm=6
All Children Deserve Two Parents
Georgia Supreme Court Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears has noted, children born to unmarried women and to those in cohabiting relationships “must often overcome increased risks of poverty, education failure, child abuse, delinquency, emotional distress and mental illness.”…….the lack of a father’s guidance in children’s lives is a major cause of their suffering. “Marriage is the best child welfare, crime prevention, anti-poverty program we have,”
http://www.barnesville.com/archives/266-gem-from-jim-octuplets…..html
Fortune Magazine – Fatherless Families & Crime
“Ominously, the most reliable predictor of crime is neither poverty nor race but growing up fatherless.”
http://money.cnn.com/magazines/fortune/fortune_archive/1992/08/10/76732/index.htm
Stanford University – Divorce, Nontraditional Families, and Its Consequences For Children
"We know that children of divorced parents have more emotional and behavioral problems and do less well in school than children who live with both their Parent."
http://www.stanford.edu/~rmahony/Divorce.html