Comments on: Has anyone ever heard of a divorce lawyer acting as a mediator?

By: Susan D

Susan D — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 02:04:59 +0000

No, you should not trust her!

A mediator can be a good thing. A mediator is, in most cases, a lawyer but is not actually representing either party. A mediator in an unbiased party and is there to help you and your husband work out terms for property division; debt division; alimoney; child support; child custody, etc. It can save money to work through a mediator.

An attorney cannot adequately represent both parties. There is no way a divorce like you will have will be resolved with an agreement equally fair. It’s going to be unfair (maybe just slightly) to one party. You don’t want to get the short end of the stick.

It sounds like your husband and his friend want to bully you into settling the divorce as cheaply as possible—-for your husband. If you agree to this, you are making a HUGE mistake.
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By: jojo234

jojo234 — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 01:57:59 +0000

Yes some people do use mediators however you should make the request to the court for a mediator. Do not use someone you know or are aquinted with.
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By: Arthur W

Arthur W — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 01:24:59 +0000

Not really a safe thing here representing both parties. Attorneys and Paralegals have acted as mediators only if they are impartial to the case and cannot favor either side. I have done this plenty of times. If you go thru with this arrangement please be careful and you do have the right to stop it at any time and the right to seperate counsel too.
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Florida Paralegal with a BS degree in Social-Pyschology

By: dawnb

dawnb — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 01:19:59 +0000

In divorce, it's wise for each to have their own attorneys working in their own behalf. One attorney for both will not be able to be objective enough to do the right thing for both. Opposing attorney's will sometimes call in an outside mediator to try to avoid court but it doesn't always work especially when you have the issues you do with your husband. Divorce situations like yours are rarely amicable.
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By: andy h.

andy h. — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 00:50:59 +0000

A LAWYER MAY NOT REPRESENT BOTH PARTIES AT THE SAME TIME!!!!!! you need to consult your own attorney and go forward with the process. if you rely on the others attorney to do it for you, YOU WILL GET SCREWED!!!! i cannot emphasize this enough. find your own council and proceed according to his/her directions.
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