Archive for the ‘Divorce mediators’ Category
they can be excellent, if you need one get one.
We have had abuse torward each other for years (loss of respect) I have been wanting to go to counsling for the last 3 years, she doen’t have time she would say. Well now the court is making her. While going through my counsling and playing all the arguments in my head, to try & figure a way that I should have handled it better. I have really come to the conclusion that everything that she did to start an argument, she did on purpose; and has made me look like a fool. We went to mediation and the mediator put in her notes, that she need to take responsiblity for action in this abusive relationship, our kids saw alot. Now I get blamed for everything, doenst hardly seem fair that if you sit down with your wife and explain to her that when she leaves for school to call you to let you know where the kids are at (never got no calls) or to call you if she would be running late from work or school, so that I have an idea of what I need to prepare for. She always did the opisite on purpose.
Domestic abuse either way is the same thing she just beat u to the station to file it… In my opinion u just need to go cuz u said urself ur kids have seen it and thats so not right NOONE should ever fight in front of their kids cuz kids no matter how small they WILL remember it and I would think ur kids deserve better then that…
I’m sry but if u fight as much as u say u do then nothings gonna help u 2 are just to different, just end it now so u both can be happy and start new lives over..Good luck man
My wife and I have been separated effectively, living separate lives and exchanging child care duties and trying not to be in the same space since January. Now she wants to move out and physically separate. I say, well if you want to move out, let’’s just get a divorce. She says that she thinks that maybe we can work it out after being separated for a while. I told her that we are separated and I have contacted a lawyer and started Divorce proceedings, even making an appointment with a divorce property mediator. Am I wrong not to try the separation? We have a 4 year old. There are no big issues like addiction or adultery or abuse. In my mind we were simply having a rough period after 17 years.
You have been seperated (basically) for 9 months its time to fish or cut bait. If she wants to go let her but divorce unfortunately is where this relationship needs to go.
That is, acting as mediator between the two opposing partners to:
1)Save money
2)Make for a more amiable divorce
3)Keep the nastiness out of court
My husband and I are currently separated. We’ve been married for 17 yrs and have three kids. This lawyer, who had agreed to do this, is a mutual classmate from college days. So we both know her, but I for one haven’t seen her since those days. We were not friends in college but we were civil. Her roommate on the other hand used, to date my husband before I did. I don’t know if this lawyer is in touch with her friend.
She approached my husband about this mediator thing. She would act as lawyer for both of us. Should I trust her? Do you this is a good solution and has anyone ever done this before?
My husband has a lot of ghosts in the closet that he may not want to expose in court. He knows I have no income so maybe playing that against me as well. He has an arrest record for hitting me and he has a serious addiction to porn.
No, you should not trust her!
A mediator can be a good thing. A mediator is, in most cases, a lawyer but is not actually representing either party. A mediator in an unbiased party and is there to help you and your husband work out terms for property division; debt division; alimoney; child support; child custody, etc. It can save money to work through a mediator.
An attorney cannot adequately represent both parties. There is no way a Divorce like you will have will be resolved with an agreement equally fair. It’s going to be unfair (maybe just slightly) to one party. You don’t want to get the short end of the stick.
It sounds like your husband and his friend want to bully you into settling the divorce as cheaply as possible—-for your husband. If you agree to this, you are making a HUGE mistake.
My ex and I are using a mediator for our divorce. This mediator also does collaborative Divorce, either with one lawyer each for my ex and I, or one coach for each of us.
Has anyone ever used a coach in mediation / collaborative divorce? Was it useful for you?
Snizz — Yes it was my dancing! Especially when I’m doing it with my eyes closed and knocking over lamps and things, woo hoo! 
Thanks Kev! I always have to put Snizz’s advice into perspective 
No I’m sorry!!!
It was the dancing that drove her away wasn’t it? She was jealous of your mad dancing skills!!!
*slaps* kev…I was giving him a compliment!!!
Hey when did it go from let’s beat up on SM to beat up on Snizz day???