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It can be tough raising a little one all on your own. Even if the other parent is involved in the child’s life, you are still handling your end completely by your lonesome. Now, this is certainly a common feat that’s tackled daily in our modern day world. The whole single parent raising a child has been done and done over again. However, what about dating for single parents? This is an issue that often goes unaddressed. Are you a single parent who dates? Or are you one that completely avoids the dating game, and always has since you and your spouse split? One thing is for certain; dating for single parents is nothing like it was back when I was a kid. So much has changed regarding the notion of communication.
Back when i was around five years of age, my parents split up. It’s the same old story we’ve all heard time and time again. It’s so cliche in fact, that it almost makes me shake my head and snicker. Basically my father was unhappy, and decided to pursue another woman who shared his marital dissatisfaction. In no time at all, my father was telling my mother that he was leaving her for another woman. Does this sound cliche yet? Why didn’t the dude just buy a sports car like many men do when they hit the age of 40? Anyway, my mother did the thing that many disgruntled mothers do; she took us three kids and ran.
There was no way in hell that she was going to let my father have us. The funny thing was that this was back in the 80s; therefore the courts agreed with her having custody. Many years later my mother had still not dated a single man. The world of dating for single parents was unknown to her. She told me once when I was in college that it was difficult to find a man when you already have three children. This made me sad to say the least. On some level my father ruined her life. Regardless, not every single parent has to endure a life of solitude. There is such a thing as dating for single parents. You just have to get out there and take a gander at what’s available. Actually you don’t have to go anywhere at first. You see, it all begins online.
Isn’t it time you explored the world of dating for Single parents? Hop on your laptop and check out the many sites that offer online dating. In no time at all you could be chatting it up with other singles just like yourself. Dating for single parents does exist, and all you need is a computer to get started..
John Wellington
http://www.articlesbase.com/marriage-articles/single-parents-thinking-of-dating-again-73592.html
If you are the one who wants to stop a divorce you will have to convince your spouse to give the relationship another try. This sounds completely logical but it is the very first simple fact you have to understand. Of course it isn’t always possible to convince your divorce minded spouse to give the relationship another try but it is imperative if you want any chance of stopping a divorce. You can stop a divorce at any stage, such as just before the paperwork is filed or even just before the paperwork is approved by the courts. But the earlier you stop a divorce the more likely that it won’t be brought up again.
To reiterate, convincing your spouse to give your relationship another go around is the very beginning process to stop a divorce. But this does not mean continuous begging to your spouse. If you have been doing that it is time to stop. You may be thinking that you need to do a lot of begging to get the point across as if the more begging the more it will wear down their resistance. The chances are, your begging is just getting more on their nerves and making them want the Divorce even more. No one wants to be around someone who seems to be unsure of themselves or needy.
Your best move is to explain in calm terms why you don’t want the divorce and you would like another chance at the relationship. If you can demonstrate some maturity in your behavior and remain calm it might surprise your spouse and help stop a divorce.
Any screaming or angry actions will not help your chances. Your divorce minded spouse already knows you don’t want the divorce. Your goal is to just make him or her realize how sad you are about it. You will be surprised how your mature actions will change your spouse’s behavior and thinking.
Another way to show your spouse that you are being mature about the situation is to suggest marital counseling. Although some people are against it, counseling has worked for many thousands of couples. Your relationship can benefit from it as well. You will have to get your significant other to agree to the counseling and that may not be so easy at first. But if you have them convinced to try again then it will not be hard. While counseling is taking place you will have even more time to convince them of the stupidity of divorce and the value of giving the relationship another chance.
While you are in counseling you can have the opportunity to figure out why you fell in love with each other in the fist place. You and your spouse will have time to think of the reasons you got together. For you to stop divorce you should show an honest effort to deal with the problems mentioned during counseling. Hopefully this will convince your partner that you are mature enough and concerned about resolving previous marital problems. This should convince him or her to stop a divorce, at least temporarily if not permanently.
If you do succeed at stopping a divorce, it is important to keep in mind that your divorce minded spouse will always feel that they can always begin to file once again for divorce if need be. It is easy for some people to change their mind back and forth quickly. This means you should be aware of the state of your relationship at all times and make an effort to keep the relationship healthy. Having a good relationship permanently is better than having to stop a divorce temporarily several times.
Mark Jordan
http://www.articlesbase.com/divorce-articles/stop-a-divorce-before-your-spouse-moves-on-746567.html
Divorce recovery takes time. This is a fact of divorce. The real question is, “How long must I endure the upset and pain of adjusting to my divorce?” While specific time predictions are not possible, we can make choices that reduce recovery time from several years to a few months.
1. What Do We Mean by “Recovery?”
Successful recovery from divorce can mean different things to different people. By “recovery,” I mean that we are no longer haunted by painful memories of the relationship. We can talk about our ex and talk to our ex without negative emotions. We can wish our ex the best in their new life. And we can go for days with even thinking of our ex. In other words, we feel content with our current life and excited about our future without our ex being an integral part of it.
2. Slaying the Myth that Time Heals Everything
Accepted wisdom tells us that “time heals everything.” Tell that to my former sister-in-law. I met Faye before I met her sister, Anne, who I eventually married. At this time Faye had been divorced five years and every reference she made to her ex was critical and painful. Sixteen years later Faye died of cancer and to her dying day, her references to her ex remained critical and painful. Twenty-one years should have been enough time to heal her divorce wounds IF “time heals everything” were true. It isn’t. Time, by itself, heals nothing.
What IS important is what we DO during that time.What are our choices for “what to do?”
3. What Can We DO to Recover from Divorce?
Our two main choices are: 1 – DO NOTHING and let “Time and Sympathy” cure our pain and, 2 – Use a “TARGETED PROGRAM” specifically designed to change the attitudes and behaviors that keep us stuck in our post-divorce pain and dysfunction.
I do not address generalized therapy because of the nebulous nature of the process. Some, if not most, talk therapies, both individual and group, provide little more than a safe place to vent feelings and perhaps receive “advice.” Other therapies, like the divorce-specific behavior therapy program of Wanderer and Cabot, provide the client with a specific, behavior-focused program specifically designed to deal with the unique issues of divorce recovery. The first kind I lump in with the “Time and Sympathy” strategies. The second I include in the “Targeted Program” strategies.
4. Recovery Time Using “Time and Sympathy” Strategies – About 3 Years
If you do nothing, that is, if you use the “Time and Sympathy” strategies, it will take years for you to recover. Just how many years is unclear. Reports vary. Some say 1 year, others say 2 years. Some predict 1 year of recovery for each year of marriage, while others say 1 year of recovery for every 2 years of marriage.
Two major research projects generally confirm these estimates. Hetherington’s study puts this time frame at 2 to 6 years. Wallerstein and Kelly found that the average time after a divorce for women to reestablish “inner equilibrium,” “external stability,” and “a sense of continuity in their lives” was 3 to 3½ years.
Any way you cut it, if you depend on “Time and Sympathy” to provide your recovery from divorce, you are looking at a long time.
Is there a better way? Can you recover from divorce sooner? Answer: Yes!
5. Recovery Time Using “Targeted Program” Strategies – About 3 Months
Targeted Programs” are behavior-focused and attitude-focused, structured programs that walk the divorced client through the unique issues and challenges of the divorce-recovery process. Two examples include the Divorce Recovery Behavior Therapy Program (Wanderer and Cabot) and my Smooth Divorce Recovery Coaching Program (JW Young). Even though the programs come from related, but different, theoretical approaches (behavior therapy versus transition management and dissolving resistance to change) their results are quite similar. Both programs estimate it takes approximately 3 MONTHS (not years) to recover from divorce.
In my divorce-recovery coaching experience, the shortest recovery time was 6 weeks for a person who had had two previous “let’s get divorced” decisions followed by reconciliation. The longest was 5 months for someone who was stuck in the past and dealing with gut level anger at being betrayed. The typical client took 3 months of weekly, 2-hour sessions, to walk through the program, during which they dropped their fantasies of revenge, saw clear hope for the future, and were able to wish their ex well.
Jerald Young
http://www.articlesbase.com/self-improvement-articles/Divorce-recovery-and-recovery-time-3-months-3-years-3-decades-how-long-will-it-take-372210.html
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I am Elizabeth Chin, a legal studies student, taking the South Australian Matriculation (SAM) program, would request for your time in helping me answer the following questions.
In your opinion, has divorce in Australia been made easier with the introduction of the “ Do-it- Yourself” divorce kits?
The only ground for divorce in Australia is “no-fault divorce”. Do you think that this ground of divorce contributes to rising number of divorce cases in Australia since its inception in 1975?
Because Australia allows for Divorce without the consent of the other spouse, how , in your opinion has this made applying for divorce to be simpler and straight-forward?
With the inception of online divorce by the Federal Magistrates Courts in January 2004, do you think that the reason of streamlining divorce cases allows for an easier divorce path?
Do you think that the present divorce rules in Australia allow for a person to obtain a divorce in a much shorter and easier process?
Absolutely it has become easier to file Divorce, as you mention with the aid of the DIY kits, and also alot of these Law firms promising "no charge if we dont win".
On another note though… i suggest you do your own research and put your own opinions into this project :p